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2 // gossip. / YOUR VIBE ATTRACTS YOUR TRIBE

Missed post 1? you can read it over here 

Ephesians 4:29
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

I’m not going to lie. I’ve been great at gossiping… not that it’s something to be proud of, but my friends will be able to tell you that I can guess drama before it happens. It’s a strange quirk….
But I’ve also been on the receiving end of gossip, and it’s not fun. Hearing untrue, horrible, things about yourself sucks. So why would we choose to put others in that position?
You’d be surprised at the many different ways you support, and contribute to gossip. Social media has made it super easy for us to follow the lives of others, and speculate about what’s going on in people’s lives by what they’re posting & who they’re posting it with.
Gossip doesn’t cease to exit at all. It starts in school and will definitely follow you into the workplace and you’ll find it amongst your church. It’s what you do about it that matters.
We’re not perfect, we’re all sinners and one sin doesn’t make you any worse or any better than the next, but part of your journey with God is becoming more and more like Him. So we won’t ever be perfect, at least not in our worldly lives, but striving for to be more and more like Him and allowing Him to work on us will make all the difference.
So… onto Gossip.
Gossip can be defined, in the shortest way possible, as any negative thing said about someone else.  If you’re not lifting the person up, it’s gossip and you need to stop.
A great analogy on gossip, is it being like a fire.  (James 3:5-6)
A small spark can set off a devastating fire. So think of it like this: the spark can be an offhand comment about someone,  a careless word in anger to set off a chain reaction of events – people’s reputations get ruined, relationships are torn apart, people get bullied.  Why would you want to do that to someone?
Instead, extinguish the flames. Make a concious decision & a commitment to God to not take part in gossip, and then don’t go back on that: you may tell your best friend everything, but that does not mean telling her (or him) about someone else’s woes. Instead, build the person up & speak out of love.  Make sure that you’re building community with your words – your positive attitude and lack of negativity will attract people to your circle, and encourage others to live the same.
Don’t be afraid to speak up for what you believe in – if you’re allowing someone else to gossip in your presence, you might as well be gossiping yourself. What you allow is what will continue. But don’t forget to forgive. As Romans 3:23 says “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” – you too were once where the gossiper is, so treat them with love.

Last but not least, pray. Pray for those who are victims of cruel gossiping, those you’ve hurt with your own gossip and for future protection over gossip. Ask God for His guidance over your words
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1 // identity. // YOUR VIBE ATTRACTS YOUR TRIBE

Hey there. 

Welcome to my new blog series. It’s only three posts long, but I hope it leaves you thinking…

“Whenever you feel unloved, unimportant or insecure, remember to whom you belong”
I’ve had some pretty horrible “friends” throughout my life span. People who were only there when they needed something. And that tends to change a person… My circle became smaller, and smaller… and now, it’s limited to about 3 close friends, and a wide variety of acquaintances.
I’ve been reading a lot lately, on real friendships and Godly friendships and have discovered my approach to making friends – and keeping them – has been so strange. My friendships have been selfish, based on things that really shouldn’t matter – unimportant, fickle common interests… and when those friendships have ended, I’ve crashed and burned too.
For a while, I could never understand why it would hit me sohard when these friendships would end and why I’d be feeling bleak for weeks, until I realised that I’d been basing my worth on these friendships, and using them to find my identity, forgetting that my worth and identity should be found in Christ alone.
So while friends may come and go, God doesn’t. He is the one constant you will find in your life, regardless of whether you’re going through ups or downs.
So focus on making your friendships about God’s  glory, and not our own. So while your friendships may bring you happiness, you should never let them dictate your worth.

You’ll find your identity in God’s unconditional love, and learn that you really are worthy.

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some changes… and a series!

Hey there

I know, it’s been a while since my last post. But I’ve been thinking a lot about the future of my blog, and something about it just wasn’t gelling well with me until recently. I’m changing this blog – to reflect me, my life & my goals.

You’ll find more of a happier me, with some focus on Christian living and I really hope you stick around for this new venture.

Mad love

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love yourself // some self care ideas

“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have” – Unknown

Having a bad day? A bad week? A bad month?

Sometimes the only way to get out of a funk is to keep pushing on until one day you wake up and it’s not bothering you anymore. While you’re pushing on, you should treat yourself & give yourself a reason to see purpose and feel life.

So, 5 self-care ideas for when life gets hard

  1. Write a list of things you’re grateful for. It’s easy to forget how blessed you are when you are feeling run down and drained. This also gives you some perspective on life, and decide if what’s bothering you is really something to be stressed over.
  2. Take a nap. When you’re feeling down and drained, a nap is a great way to clear your mind. Turn off your phone, find a quiet spot and get some shut eye, sometimes “restarting” your day is all you need to feel better.
  3. 3. Take yourself out – for an ice cream, for coffee, for a long walk on the beach. Alone time is great for when you’re feeling overwhelmed and you’re constantly surrounded by other people. Even a quick walk around the block will feel great for some peace of mind.

    4. Run yourself a hot bath… or jump into a hot shower. (But not too hot, because we don’t want your skin ruined). Jump in and just relax. Lock the door. Use a Do Not Disturb sign if you have to, but make this your me time. No distractions.

    5. Make yourself a healthy meal. For me, this one was always such a weird idea, like isn’t comfort eating a bad idea? until I realised that there was a difference between stuffing my face with cake and making myself a fruit bowl filled with my favourites – it’s all about balance tbh. BUT the meal will make a difference to your mood.

    What are your favourite ways to look after yourself? Leave them in the comments below!

    xx
    Becca

    feeling inspired

    feeling inspired: it is within you – purpose

    When purpose is a ‘thing’
    I’ve seen so many posts on this in recent months, while trying to decide what I’m going to be doing for the rest of my life. I’ve read posts talking about how you need to find what you love, and then find a career that makes use of it… But once you’ve achieved your purpose, what more is there for you to do? You could basically just die now. 
    I don’t want that. So I’ve change my mindset. Purpose is now less about what I’m doing with my life, and more about how I’m doing it.
    Putting my 100% into everything I do is so much better, I’m quite literally pouring my heart out. Our purpose is inside of us – in the way we give ourselves fully to a task.
    So if you’re struggling with your purpose listen your heart’s desires, ask yourself – what is my heart wanting me to do next, and then do it wholeheartedly. Keep listening to your heart, and what it wants – because when your heart & soul are in the right place, you’ll find your life filled with colour.
    Purpose is less about what you’re doing, and more about how you’re doing it. 
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    a mission statement

    I’ve never really thought about the future of this blog until recently and I’ve decided that it’s time to try a new direction. To be less like the rest, and more myself.

    Welcome to the new 15bex02, the lifestyle blog.

    I have a ton of personal goals for this blog, and realised a mission statement is exactly what I need. I need a reference point, or constant reminder of where I want this blog to go.


    “15bex02 is hoping to encourage readers to make the most of life, find the positive in everything and break the barrier of their comfort zones while never forgetting to take care of themselves and find inspiration in the little things.”

    It sounds pretty realistic. I think.
    So, with this mission statement in place, you can expect:
    More of the real me. I’m learning to be a happier, more positive person. I’m hoping to be able to express myself more freely and share my little wisdoms along the way!

     More posts! I’m hoping to stray away from strictly beauty posts, and focus more on real life talks, advice and healthy living for the body and soul. I want to express more of my personal style and preferences, and learn more about some of you. I’m hoping to add some reviews, posts about life and new things to try… Let’s see how well that goes.

    Dream catching. Quite literally, I’m hoping to grasp some of my dreams and visions in my hands and carry them out. I may share some of those in a post, let me know if you’re keen on that?

    Musings. I really want to share more deep thoughts and musings and ideas. I have so much more to learn and so much growth to do, I can only hope ya’ll come along for the ride.

    What you won’t be seeing on my blog:

    Only money making posts. With this in mind, if approached by a brand that I use and trust I’ll probably accept the offer and do the post. What I won’t do, though, is hide the fact that it is a sponsored post because I want to be transparent with you.

    Drama. I hate drama. I no longer follow celebs, because there’s so much drama attached to them. You won’t see any gossip-y posts (maybe the odd reference here and there), but I’m in no place to be judging any of them.

    Fellow bloggers, do you have a mission statement for your blog? Feel free to share it below! What kinds of posts are you keen to see on here? What do you think of my mission statement? I really want to create the kind of content you want to see, so let me know! ❤

    xo Becca