15bex02 · blogging

3 things I’ve learned from blogging

Ah. It’s time for one of those super sentimental posts. I’m totally in awe of how much my blog has grown in the past month. In the past month, my blog has surpassed both the 6000 and 7000 page view milestones (the big 10000 is so close!

There have been so many lessons learnt. Blogging has been so important for my personal growth, and has definitely contributed to my outlook on life.

lesson one: thousands of followers don’t guarantee your success as a blogger.
fun fact, as of right now I have about 8000 followers between my two Twitter accounts (yes, I have two, it’s a long story) and about 2000 on Instagram. I know of local bloggers who have double that… but they’re very ‘disconnected’ from their audience. The numbers don’t matter if you can’t influence and relate to your readers. 
on that note… lesson one point one: there’s no guaranteed way to blogging success
Also, social media is not a good thing to base your self worth on. I’ve been there, and it’s a hard lesson to learn. Rather, base your self worth on how you treat others, and how you make a difference in the lives of others.
lesson two: stay authentic
you may have noticed – there are a couple of bloggers who are almost identical in what they post and how they write and you can feel come across as fake. I found the second I steered away from that style of blogging and made it genuine, and my own little blog community grew exponentially. I’ve been applying this in real life – authenticity – and my personal relationships have become so much better and freeing… 
It’s hard to fake being someone you’re not for a long period of time, it becomes draining and you start losing sight of who you really are. Stay true to who you are, and you’ll find yourself being happier.
lesson three: the scars you share…
“The scars you share become lighthouses for people who are headed for the same rocks you hit”
I posted something personal on my Instagram a little while ago and the response was overwhelming. So many people can learn from your mistakes and experiences. I think that’s what blogging is about though – many people now look for people they can relate to. 
Real life application? Don’t be afraid to leave your comfort zone. If you attend a church and they have small groups – go to them and share. Use your experiences to help others. You could even use blogging (if you’re not already a blogger) or Twitter or Tumblr or Instagram. There are entire online communities out there that I bet you never knew existed… but can relate to. Go hunting. Get sharing.
To my readers though, thank you so much for being part of this journey, You make me so happy and I am so appreciative of all the support you’ve shown me. I hope that you stick around for many more milestones (:

much love


Making Blogger Friends (& why you should!)

I’ve always felt so awkward reaching out to other bloggers, especially because it feels as though they’re all more successful than I am… But, I think I’ve got the hang of it now, so here’s some advice for those of you in my shoes!

Opening the door

Sometimes the hardest part of building a new friendship is starting a connection with someone. The easiest way to do this is to follow someone, even if they are not in your “niche”. Use these people as an opportunity. Stay active on social media, and be ‘available’ and open to conversation. Comment on other people’s blogs, join Facebook groups where you can (avoid spammy ones, and focus on those where you can have decent conversations.) Respond to comments (I’m the worst at this, though, lol) but some of the best blogger friendships have started by one half leaving a comment on the other half’s blog and striking up a conversation.

Be consistent
One thing you don’t want to do, is start building a friendship just to drop that person. Don’t comment on every post of theirs for a month, just to suddenly stop. If you stay constant and consistent, there’s an increasing chance that they will return the love and even reach out to you. A little effort will go a long way.
Another way to keep up consistency is to style all your social media profiles similarly, to be more recognizable.

Be real
Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to try and fit into the “cool” group. It’s hard keeping up appearances and starts showing through after a couple of posts. By being genuine, more meaningful relationships are built upon your quirks.

Pay attention
You should pay close attention to other people’s social media and blogs. You can find a ton of people who share similar interests, and that you’d probably befriend IRL. Look at common hasthtags used by people in your niche & industry. I’m obsessed with blog directories and Twitter Chat accounts, they often have a group chat where information can be shared, and discussions happen on current trends. This is the easiest way to meet people, I promise.

Collaborating & supporting
Honestly, I could do an entire post on this topic alone (maybe I will!), but obviously you want to collaborate with fellow bloggers and build community on your blogs. The easiest way to do this is by collaborating on a post (for example a tag), guest posting or purchasing ad space on their site.
These connections and friendships are so beneficial if you want to connect with other bloggers. You have someone who knows what you’re going through, and can help you out. Who understands the rough patches that come with blogging and are willing help you through the hard times. The advantages are endless, and I have yet to find any disadvantages to having blogger friends!

Let’s be friends!
  1.  Leave a comment down below with your blog address, I’d be more than happy to check it out.
  2.  Follow me on IG or Twitter @15bex02 (I follow back) and we can start up a conversation there!

Super keen to hear from you (:

Do you have any advice for making blogging friends?