15bex02 · blogging

3 things I’ve learned from blogging

Ah. It’s time for one of those super sentimental posts. I’m totally in awe of how much my blog has grown in the past month. In the past month, my blog has surpassed both the 6000 and 7000 page view milestones (the big 10000 is so close!

There have been so many lessons learnt. Blogging has been so important for my personal growth, and has definitely contributed to my outlook on life.

lesson one: thousands of followers don’t guarantee your success as a blogger.
fun fact, as of right now I have about 8000 followers between my two Twitter accounts (yes, I have two, it’s a long story) and about 2000 on Instagram. I know of local bloggers who have double that… but they’re very ‘disconnected’ from their audience. The numbers don’t matter if you can’t influence and relate to your readers. 
on that note… lesson one point one: there’s no guaranteed way to blogging success
Also, social media is not a good thing to base your self worth on. I’ve been there, and it’s a hard lesson to learn. Rather, base your self worth on how you treat others, and how you make a difference in the lives of others.
lesson two: stay authentic
you may have noticed – there are a couple of bloggers who are almost identical in what they post and how they write and you can feel come across as fake. I found the second I steered away from that style of blogging and made it genuine, and my own little blog community grew exponentially. I’ve been applying this in real life – authenticity – and my personal relationships have become so much better and freeing… 
It’s hard to fake being someone you’re not for a long period of time, it becomes draining and you start losing sight of who you really are. Stay true to who you are, and you’ll find yourself being happier.
lesson three: the scars you share…
“The scars you share become lighthouses for people who are headed for the same rocks you hit”
I posted something personal on my Instagram a little while ago and the response was overwhelming. So many people can learn from your mistakes and experiences. I think that’s what blogging is about though – many people now look for people they can relate to. 
Real life application? Don’t be afraid to leave your comfort zone. If you attend a church and they have small groups – go to them and share. Use your experiences to help others. You could even use blogging (if you’re not already a blogger) or Twitter or Tumblr or Instagram. There are entire online communities out there that I bet you never knew existed… but can relate to. Go hunting. Get sharing.
To my readers though, thank you so much for being part of this journey, You make me so happy and I am so appreciative of all the support you’ve shown me. I hope that you stick around for many more milestones (:

much love

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15bex02 · feeling inspired

feeling inspired: little reasons to smile

Hey beautiful!

I’m back, with another feeling inspired post, yay! It has been a while….

Anyway, I’m obsessed with little reasons to smile. For those of you that don’t know, it’s a tumblr account where people submit things that make them happy and the account owners create cute little images and woooooow. My happy place. 

“But the most beautiful things in life are not just things. They’re people, and places, memories and pictures. They’re feelings and moments and smiles and laughter”




Here are 15 of my favourites:

taking a relaxing bath when you’re stressed
I think it’s super important to find things that make you smile, and to prioritize them over the bad. If you can’t find things to make you happy, create them. After all, it’s in the little things, right?
What makes you smile?
xo Becca
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Making Blogger Friends (& why you should!)

I’ve always felt so awkward reaching out to other bloggers, especially because it feels as though they’re all more successful than I am… But, I think I’ve got the hang of it now, so here’s some advice for those of you in my shoes!

Opening the door

Sometimes the hardest part of building a new friendship is starting a connection with someone. The easiest way to do this is to follow someone, even if they are not in your “niche”. Use these people as an opportunity. Stay active on social media, and be ‘available’ and open to conversation. Comment on other people’s blogs, join Facebook groups where you can (avoid spammy ones, and focus on those where you can have decent conversations.) Respond to comments (I’m the worst at this, though, lol) but some of the best blogger friendships have started by one half leaving a comment on the other half’s blog and striking up a conversation.

Be consistent
One thing you don’t want to do, is start building a friendship just to drop that person. Don’t comment on every post of theirs for a month, just to suddenly stop. If you stay constant and consistent, there’s an increasing chance that they will return the love and even reach out to you. A little effort will go a long way.
Another way to keep up consistency is to style all your social media profiles similarly, to be more recognizable.

Be real
Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to try and fit into the “cool” group. It’s hard keeping up appearances and starts showing through after a couple of posts. By being genuine, more meaningful relationships are built upon your quirks.

Pay attention
You should pay close attention to other people’s social media and blogs. You can find a ton of people who share similar interests, and that you’d probably befriend IRL. Look at common hasthtags used by people in your niche & industry. I’m obsessed with blog directories and Twitter Chat accounts, they often have a group chat where information can be shared, and discussions happen on current trends. This is the easiest way to meet people, I promise.

Collaborating & supporting
Honestly, I could do an entire post on this topic alone (maybe I will!), but obviously you want to collaborate with fellow bloggers and build community on your blogs. The easiest way to do this is by collaborating on a post (for example a tag), guest posting or purchasing ad space on their site.
These connections and friendships are so beneficial if you want to connect with other bloggers. You have someone who knows what you’re going through, and can help you out. Who understands the rough patches that come with blogging and are willing help you through the hard times. The advantages are endless, and I have yet to find any disadvantages to having blogger friends!

Let’s be friends!
  1.  Leave a comment down below with your blog address, I’d be more than happy to check it out.
  2.  Follow me on IG or Twitter @15bex02 (I follow back) and we can start up a conversation there!

Super keen to hear from you (:

Do you have any advice for making blogging friends?
15bex02 · hair care · sponsored

FIRST IMPRESSIONS: dark and lovely – au naturale

My hair is naturally curly, but it’s such a hassle to wear it naturally. I straighten it once a week and hate myself for it – it’s such a mission.

Beauty Bulletin gave me the chance to trial the new Dark & Lovely Au Naturale Range. It will be available in South Africa from October and is totally worth the money.

I was sent 4 products:

  • Moisture Replenishing Shampoo (RRP R34.95)
  • Knot Out Conditioner (RRP R34.95)
  • Plaiting Pudding Cream (RRP R69.95)
  • Afro Moisturising Butter (RRP R69.95)
I tried out the shampoo, conditioner and plaiting cream straight away! First off, I love the fact that the products (as far as I can see on the labels) don’t contain sulphate. Sulphate frizzes your hair out, and is a big no-no for curly haired ladies, so this was a great point.
First off I started of with the shampoo, which has an amazing mango/orange-y fragrance. It usually takes my hair being washed twice through with shampoo to have my curls regain their shape (after having my hair straightened), but one wash & I was good to go! Even before I used the conditioner my hair was feeling soft and silky.
Next, the conditioner. The directions recommend applying it, combing it through & leaving it on for 5 to 15 minutes. I was a little pressed for time, so I combed it through for about 2 minutes before rinsing it out & drying my hair off with an old cotton shirt (totally recommend this – you can squeeze the water out, and stop the frizz that comes with rubbing your hair with a normal towel). My hair felt INCREDIBLE. So soft and silky and smelling great. My friends were obsessively smelling my hair afterwards. So worth it.
Finally, the cream. Consider it a moisturizer/styling cream for curly/natural hair. This stuff is FAB. I tied my hair into a ponytail/bun thing on top of my head and it has yet to frizz.
Will I feel the same in a week’s time though? Guess we’ll find out…
Disclaimer: This is a sponsored post, but all opinions are my own. I will always be honest, and never mislead my readers. 
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starting your glo up

I think one of the best parts of this year has been the beginning of my “glo up”. I forced myself to learn to love myself. This has to be one of the best transformation periods of a girl’s life – learning to love herself, getting her priorities straight and shaping her future.

In all honesty, I think each phase of your life comes with its own glo up. The glo up is not about what you look like. It’s about being able to accept it. It’s about your attitude – towards yourself, and other people. It’s about your self-worth, and doing what you can to take control of your negative feelings towards yourself, your life & body.

But let’s be real, the way you look has a lot of influence on how you feel… So let phase one commence.

PHASE ONE: FEELING PRETTY

  1. Assess how you see yourself, what would you like to change? Be realistic though – losing a ton of weight in a short time isn’t healthy, neither is gaining it or starting a ridiculous workout program that does nothing but scare the living daylights out of you. (Look out for a post on working out & being healthy!). Change what YOU think you need to. Be sure to do it for you though
  2. Try something new with your hair. Get a new weave, change your hair colour, get a hair cut. Find a style that makes you feel empowered and like a strong independent woman. 
  3. Start a beauty routine. Skincare is so important, because many of us are super self conscious about how we look. If you’re into makeup, try new things, find your personal style whether it be natural glam or bold and beautiful, do you!
  4. Find your personal clothing style. Change your closet accordingly (sell off old things! save the money) and stick to pieces that make you feel beautiful.
PHASE TWO: LIVING PRETTY
  1. Change up your friend group. Hit the delete button on friendships that feel toxic, on people who don’t appreciate you and on people that have a horrible influence on you. Have coffee dates with people who inspire you, and the friends who love you.
  2. Pamper yourself. Have days solely for self love, and taking a break from everyday stress.
  3. Focus on positivity. Unfollow all of those sad, depressing Instagram & Twitter accounts. Don’t allow yourself to wallow in sadness. It’s hard, but sometimes you need to make a conscious decision to be happy.
What’s made you feel better about yourself lately? Share it in the comments.
15bex02 · girls guide to

a life cleanse // some tips

If there’s one thing I’ve started doing more regularly, it’s cleaning up my life. I can’t move on from the hurts of the past if I’m still holding on tight… Here are a few things I like to do when trying to clean up my life, & brighten up again

  • Delete old conversations. If we no longer talk, I’m holding onto nothing. It’s super healthy to let go of the past and to stop yourself from dwelling on things, by not having the temptation to dwell on it.
  • Say kind things. Whether it be about yourself, or other people, a positive mind = a positive life. Good vibes and all that. Don’t speak about people you don’t like, don’t even think about them.
  • Allow yourself to cry, and vent. Don’t beat yourself up about letting the bad moments get to you. You need to release the anger and the hurt in able to move onto better things
  • If it’s not working, don’t force it. That goes for relationships, friendships and plans for your future. There really is no reason for you to keep working and feeling like a failure when there are other people and places for you to be better in.
  • Don’t run away from your problems. If you don’t face them head on and deal with them, the reason you ran will still be with you. Make sure to focus on releasing and freeing yourself before a new beginning.
  • “Clean sheets = clean sleep = a clean mind”
  • Don’t forget to make yourself feel loved. (Need some ideas? I have an entire post on it.)
  • A glass of cold water, a walk, a warm bath and a good night’s sleep are perfect for clearing your head.
What do you do when you want a life change? Let me know 🙂
real life

1 hour to productivity // beating stress and anxiety



So, you’ve had a bad day. You struggled to get out out of bed this morning, and since your feet hit the floor all you could think about was getting through the day and crawling back into bed, am I right?

But, obviously, because real life sucks you have stuff to do. Whether it be homework, or work you brought home, you have to do it.

So we’re going to set a timer for an hour, and at the end of the hour we’ll hopefully be able to get through our to-do list.
Don’t skip any of these steps. They each serve their own purpose, do them even if you have to force yourself to follow the list.

Step 1: Do some light exercise. In the wise words of Elle Woods: “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands, they just don’t.”. You can find a 5-10 minute yoga/workout video on youtube to follow along to. I personally love XHIT’s ab workouts! (10 minutes max!)

Step 2: Drink a glass of cold water and grab a (healthy) snack! The feeling of the cold water will make you feel refreshed, and when you’re feeling refreshed you have less time to feel stressed! (5 minutes)

Step 3: Take a shower or bath. Imagine you’re washing away the stress/worries. Don’t do all that in the shower overthinking.. Take this time to listen to some upbeat music, or even sing your own! (15 minutes)

Step 4: Put on your comfiest clothing items. (Make sure they’re clean obvs). Make sure to carry out a routine here by doing anything that makes you feel more put together – for example brushing your hair out, using a quick face mask. Anything that will make you feel better. (10 minutes)

Step 5: Grab some fuel to accompany your tasks. I love a warm cup of coffee or Chai tea on cold winter evenings with a couple of rusks and orange juice or cold water in the summer. A light snack, for example nuts, are also a great accompaniment.  (10 minutes)

Step 6: Make a list of things you know you’ll be able to achieve right now. Be sure to be realistic, if you’re not honest with yourself you’ll find yourself feeling super dejected about failing, which will increase your anxiety and stress. (10 minutes)

Step 7: Begin your tasks! If you’re really not feeling it, put on some upbeat music. It will probably slow you down, but at least you’re being productive & getting things done, which totally beats where you were an hour ago 🙂

How do you get things done when you’re really not feeling it? Let me know in the comments below ❤

xo
Becca